Relationships are hard enough at the best of times but there are always ways you can show your partner you love, support and respect them. And as we all know, the male ego is easily bruised but also easily buoyed up! Here are seven things your man needs in your relationship.
Praise and approval
Men need plenty of reassurance about themselves on everything from their career, relationships and of course attractiveness. As the saying goes: The good thing about praise is, you get to see the good side more often!
Men hate to feel like their partner disapproves of them in any way. They may begin to think, ‘if she doesn’t approve of who I am then how can she really love me?’ This can sometimes put distance between partners in relationships.
Men and women connect through two main things; communication and sex. Experts say that generally, women connect better through communication and men connect better through sex. This doesn’t mean they need to have sex everyday but he needs to know you are sexually available to him.
This is where things can become complicated as women feel like they can’t sexually connect until they feel connected to their partner but men find it difficult to communicate if physical contact is lacking. Talk with your partner and ask what specifically helps them feel the most loved so you can avoid these unintentional standoffs.
Fear of opening up
Growing up men are usually taught to not appear weak whether it be expressing their emotions, fears or concerns and expressing self-doubt. However, when a man meets his life-partner this changes and they usually begin to open up. Be aware of this and be careful how you react, as he may not trust you with his emotions again.
Time in the man cave
It’s no secret that men love their own space. This can sometimes cause a wedge especially when there is a family involved as we all know getting that work-life balance is near impossible. But where possible both partners should have time to spend with friends and enjoy the things they loved before life took over!
A gentle touch
Men need a physical touch, even just hand through their hair, a rub on the back or kiss on the cheek. Men enjoy this just as much as love-making.
Finally, when men are in a long-term relationship they enjoy and need security; security from all of the above. He feels secure in knowing that you approve of him and where he is in his career. He feels secure and loved when you touch him non-sexually throughout the day. He feels secure when he is allowed to have his guys’ nights away from you and you don’t feel the need to call or text him every half hour to check in.
And he feels secure with a partner who takes steps to love him in the way that he most needs.
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